I don’t think that we realize the impact our adolescence and teenage years can have on our adulthood. After working with hundreds of clients, I’ve come to recognize that we are all authentic, yet long for the same acceptance in life. It’s evident that a lot of our issues with body image, our relationship with food, our belief in being able to change, and our ability to take care of ourselves in our adulthood stem from an identity we’ve subconsciously held onto since childhood.
Whether you were bullied at school about your looks, you were belittled about your weight by family, or you were never “good enough” in sports, it has, without a doubt, shaped who you are today. The difference of that outcome being life-changing in either direction comes down to our ability to break through the subconscious identity we placed on ourselves in those circumstances that we went through.
Sometimes we don’t even know that we are so deeply impacted by these subconscious identities that we hit a point in life where we just feel stuck, stuck in the same circle of not making the progress we want when it comes to our health. These moments allow us to dig deeper as to why we do the things we do and say the things we say.
At the end of the day, most of us know the importance of moving our bodies & feeding ourselves well, but there are rooted issues that are holding us back from being the person we truly want to be. If you’ve never thought about this before, I encourage you to take some quiet time for yourself and reflect on what identities you may be holding onto that are currently holding you back from being a person you love, and what’s truly impacting your ability to reach your fitness goals.
As humans, we tend to want to blend our circumstances into our identity – but the truth is, our identity isn’t defined by our hardships, it’s defined by who we become through those hardships.
Forgiveness is hard, but it’s harder to be the prisoner of someone else’s actions. It’s our choice to remain trapped or to use those experiences as fuel for growth. Forgiveness doesn’t mean condoning what happened; it means releasing ourselves from the burden of anger and resentment.
At the end of the day, most of us know the importance of moving our bodies & feeding ourselves well, but there are rooted issues that are holding us back from being the person we truly want to be. If you’ve never thought about this before, I encourage you to take some quiet time for yourself and reflect on what identities you may be holding onto that are currently holding you back from being a person you love, and what’s truly impacting your ability to reach your fitness goals.
I want to remind you, it isn’t that you aren’t capable, it’s that you’ve been through some hard things in your life that have created a false identity & representation of who you believe you are.
Let this next chapter of life be the one where you believe in yourself, where you break down the false narratives that you’ve held onto for too long. You can achieve anything you want to, & if it’s too hard to think about doing it for yourself, dedicate this next chapter of life to a younger you.
